After watching "He's Just Not That Into You" I was considering some of the "rules of the game". Throughout my life I've heard these rules. I hear them on the radio, in conversation, in passing, the rules are everywhere. But I have a big issue with these rules. A lot of times I do not feel these "rules" are biblical.
I as listening to a talk show and I heard some callers and their comments and I was shocked!
My biggest issue is the "men love b*tches" rule. I get that women should be strong and independent, we live in a society that calls for this. However, in a relationship, a woman should be submissive to her own husband and a husband should love his wife as Christ loves the church and for me, being that strong, "I don't need you" person doesn't really click with that who submission and love thing. Maybe it's just me, but the women calling in on the radio sounded like they were the authority in the relationship and that the men were eating out of their hands. That doesn't look like a healthy relationship to me.
Another called in saying that she never lets her husband see her without makeup or without her looking her best. Even when she's sick she tries to look her best. She said that in doing this he will not wander and look at others. Personally, I just don't get it. Are men dumb? Are they all shallow? Yes, I understand they are more visual and blah blah blah, but do all of them look on outward appearance? Is that all they care about so that when you are sick you still have to look good? I just don't get it ...
To be frank, this makes me lose faith in the male gender. It seems as though they are sissy men that can't think for themselves and need to constantly see pretty or else they get bored. That they need to constantly feel like they are fighting for something, else they get bored. That as a woman, if I don't play these little games they will lose interest ... For some reason that screams immaturity to me. These aren't men, these are boys that constantly need entertainment.
Is it wrong for me to think that dating/marriage relationships should be a sharing thing? That it should be a respect thing? That is should be out of a want and not necessarily a need? Maybe I'm talking from lack of experience, but I really don't want to play a game, I want stability and truth.
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These games are so foolish. I think some people will mature and realize they are, but it is often the way the world views love and relationships. I think you are right to see something wrong in them. And that whole thing about the woman always wearing makeup? That is so stupid! For one, her husband probably doesn't even realize she does that. A lot of married men I know don't even really notice a difference when their wife isn't wearing make up, of if they do they often think she is more beautiful (at least that SHOULD be the case, if not they are totally shallow and fell in love with a fake face).
I feel the same way that men are so immature that they want attention as we have to keep up with their standard.
I want them to be more considerate such that relationship is a give and take, a shared responsibility to make the bonding strong. I want them to see the relationship not in a superficial way or fancy way. I want them to be a real man and not boys.
I totally agree, relationship is not a game to play. It is more than that. We're talking about emotions. Though women tend to be a little sensitive in this matter. But we're all humans and we need our feelings or effort to be reciprocated. It is not a one-sided matter.
I'll keep it short. I hate Bi**ches. Less makeup the better (ever seen up close pictures of movie stars? Ewl!) As far as playing games goes, if it's not on a gaming system I'm not interested in playing. Guitar Hero anyone?
That is so far from the truth - my husband and I don't play those games or follow those rules - and we are very happy together. We are comfortable because we can both relax at home and be ourselves and that's how it should be. I don't wear makeup all the time & he wears his scrubby holey t-shirts at home. We are friends and we respect each other. I let him make the call because I love him. Most of the time he does what he knows I want anyway because he loves me. It works out well.
I believe there is a reason you should be friends before you think of dating, it means you are much more comfortable around each other and it makes for a better relationship overall. The makeup and games can't last a lifetime, and it shouldn't, because that is NOT what marriage and relationships are about- they are about living together for God!